Connection is a B****

These quotes about connection have inspired me and stayed with me over the years. I hope others can connect to these quotes and reminisce on the happy times with that special person. Whether a lost or a current love, they can treasure and cherish those experiences.

“Those final weeks, spanning end of summer and the beginning of another autumn, are blurred in memory, perhaps because our understanding of each other had reached that sweet depth where two people communicate more often in silence than in words: an affectionate quietness replaces the tensions, the unrelaxed chatter and chasing about that produce a friendship’s more showy, more, in the surface sense, dramatic moments.” 

Truman Capote, Breakfast at Tiffany's

I first read this book after becoming incredibly obsessed with the film. I had heard from many happily married couples over the years the importance of silence with your partner — that isn’t awkward but needed. Needed because it solidifies the strength of your connection and chemistry. This can happen in friendships and relationships.

“Her heart sank into her shoes as she realized at last how much she wanted him. No matter what his past was, no matter what he had done. Which was not to say that she would ever let him know, but only that he moved her chemically more than anyone she had ever met, that all other men seemed pale beside him.” 

F. Scott Fitzgerald, A New Leaf

Every girl has been here— whether reciprocated or not. My second book is inspired by this story and the story of girls everywhere who have felt like this before, myself included. We can’t choose who we want, and most of the time we end up with what we never thought we wanted. 

“A physical attraction is often desired above many things but you'll discover it to be short lived. Find yourself someone that gets under your skin, seduces the dusty corners of your heart, and provides you with a mental connection. That is when you'll know true intimacy.” 

—M.J. Abraham

Physical attraction is important, but theres nothing like meeting someone mentally without judgement. 

“I'm your phantom dance partner. I'm your shadow. I'm not anything more.” 

Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance 

Find your dance partner and hold onto them for real life. You can dance on the edge of danger because of connection. 

“Intensity of connection, Depth of emotion, Unified thoughts, No doubts in the significance of you.” 

Truth Devour, Wantin

Having a deep spiritual connection with someone means finding out you are in the presence of your own personal miracle. 

The anonymous writer below recaps her experience that as she says has been “tattooed on her mind.”

I was a sophomore at a trendy, exclusive New York university. He was working for friends of his father’s in New York at a real estate firm. I am Jewish, he was not.

I was staying with my posh, yet spoiled latin heiress friend. I wondered how many more bottles of wine she could drink before she puked again. I was exhausted after the expensive $500 seven course dinner we just ate. Thinking of ways to get to bed, I slowly tiptoed to the bathroom to start taking my makeup off.

“What are you doing? Some friends are coming over!” 

I pleaded with her, that it was 2:30 AM and I was exhausted. She goes “Chica, don’t go to sleep, you’re going to love my friends!”

Making my way back to the couch, I closed my eyes for maybe three minutes when I was nudged to wake up. In walked in a group of three guys, and I noticed how two of them looked exactly alike. 

Yet, the older brother stuck out to me. He wasn’t particularly good looking, yet his smile was blinding. He was sunshine in human form. His energy was intoxicating and rare for me to experience. Muffles of a French accent filled the room as well. 

He shook my hand and gave me a smile that left me breathless, literally. We spoke for a bit, which I found out he was Egyptian and French.  As he continued to talk, I realized that this connection was doomed. There was no way it could go further than that night. My values and needs and desires were more important than the connection I was feeling for this man. I carefully yawned and excused myself. Staying there and speaking to him was utterly painful. 

I decided after that night to not be around this man for my own good. If my friend asked to hang out, I made excuses so we wouldn’t run into each other. My strength and my willpower were tested in many ways. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I wasn’t strong, if I saw him again. What kind of hardships we’d face? Would a relationship blossom?

 Now looking back, I know me walking away and going to bed was for the better. 

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